I had my first Empty Nesty type conversation with Jack this weekend.
Out of the blue, he said, “Dad, I don’t think I could ever move out of home until I can afford to have unlimited internet. I’ll probably be living with you until I’m 30!”
I said, “That’s okay mate, you can still live with us when you’re 30.”
Jack – “There’s no way I will be living with you when I’m 30. How much is unlimited internet.”
Me – “We pay about 100 bucks a month.”
Jack – “Oh that’s alright. I thought it would be hundreds. That’s cheap.”
Me – “How much do you earn a month?”
Until this time, I had never considered the fact that Jack – nor any of my children – had ever considered the day they would not live with us. It was a sad realisation and a milestone moment.
Later that night we went out for pizza. Next to the restaurant was a bridal gown shop which, naturally, my daughter Kate was immediately attracted to. We started discussing the pros and cons of the gorgeous dresses in the window and I thought it best to end the conversation with,
“Don’t worry Kate. If I have my way you will never be getting married anyway so don’t worry about it.”
I was beaten by my twins (in jest of course, because they don’t think they’ll ever get married either!).
My son takes delight in reminding me that ‘next year’ he’ll be able to drive. 15 in December then 16 in December 2015… yeah mate, whatever. That day’ll never come either.
But shit… yes it will…
- My son will one day move out of home (as long as he has unlimited internet).
- My daughters will most likely get married and have to decide on a beautiful wedding dress (if a couple of boys are lucky enough to pass the test).
- Jack will be driving ‘next year‘… God forbid (and he has my genes).
- And Karen and I will one day be able to have a private conversation.
Like every parent; I continuously think these days will never come and then become surprised as they do. Another reminder to make the most of every moment.
It seems like this was only yesterday…